“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
She could finish my sentences. She knew my favorite things, and I knew hers. Few people could motivate me the way that she could. We were each other’s confidantes; needless to say we just “did life together”. Then, things started to seem off, and I was stunned to find out that she had a perception of a situation that was so entirely different than mine. A misunderstanding that could have so easily been corrected destroyed our friendship.
In the weeks and months that followed, I found myself reeling under the betrayal and rejection. I could not change the situation; I only had control over my response. So I approached her and asked for her forgiveness. I apologized that things had come across in a way that had caused her hurt.
The freedom that came with forgiveness brought our friendship back to life. We were able to talk again, and the experience nursed a healthier relationship between us.
Are you harboring resentment and bitterness? Is there someone you need to forgive or ask forgiveness from? Talk to a prayer mentor.
Through this I learned the critical importance of forgiving someone. Forgiveness can be so difficult sometimes, but the Bible provides us with answers, inspiration and direction. Forgiveness is not just about the other person, but it’s also a way for us to grow. We are called by God to love, and love and forgiveness cannot be separated. Forgiveness is not an option if we choose to live out the love of God as our life’s purpose.
Lord, I thank you that you created us to experience the beauty of love and relationship. God, I have been hurt and I have hurt others. Forgive me for my wrongdoings and please help me to truly forgive. Give me clarity in what steps I need to take to apologize, forgive and restore those relationships. Help me to honor you in the relationships you have given to me. Thank you for always walking alongside me. This I pray in your precious name. Amen.
Are you bitter and resentful? Seek the Holy Spirit to take the steps to make things right. The relationship may not be restored, but you can experience freedom as you extend the forgiveness the same forgives that God has given you.
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