C. S. Lewis once said “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world.” Lewis was not unacquainted with suffering in his own life. His book A Grief Observed Lewis pours out his heart after the death of his wife, Joy Gresham.

Another man who is acquainted with grief is radio host and author Dawson McAllister. He speaks to an average of half a million listeners per week on his radio show, but in this video he reflects poignantly about his son’s accident. Like Lewis, he is a man who is not a fan of cliches and easy answers, he’d rather grapple honestly with the truth. In dealing with times of suffering he says,  “Either you’ll become better, or you’ll become bitter, but you won’t be the same again.”

If it seems like God has been shouting into your life lately rather than whispering, and you’d like someone to talk with about it privately, use this form to talk to an email mentor. It’s entirely free and your information will be kept confidential. You can also take an online study based on this video.