Comments on: What is true love?

By: joe

joe — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 19:17:03 +0000

First of all there is the biological laws , Lust,Love,Attachment. Lust to form the attraction so as to get together in the first place , love and affection to build an attachment to allow the couple to stay together long enough to rear children and to provide for the children until they are old enough. Thus any new relationship will have the powerful narcotic “love” to help insure the attachment .once this very powerful drug called love wears off , is when the relationship has its problems. To me , TRUE LOVE is not this very powerful attachment drug called love but a true bond between two very compatable people. Not compatable in the sense that they have similarities but the ability to truly tolorate one another in everyday life day after day aftr day. True love is when you will; never cross your partner and at the same time never compromise your self , and to find somebody like this will be very difficult but quite rewarding !

By: Frankie

Frankie — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 03:24:43 +0000

KATLIN please please understand what I am about to say is not to intentionally hurt you… Its just that you should JUST MOVE ON AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE YOU ARE BETTER THEN THAT AND HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!!!

By: Sammie

Sammie — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 19:34:24 +0000

kaitlin: you should think to yourself and figure out if he was the perfect guy for and if he is then find out if he is reall worth the long two hours apart from one another..

By: Dave

Dave — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 09:48:19 +0000

The definition of true love is up for debate. No one knows the definition of true. No human at least. Everyone has there own opinion on what they think is true love. To me, there is no true love! Society has always been a power struggle, including love. Think of your relationship with your kids, parents, and so called ‘loved ones’. There’s always a presence of power being enforced and suppressed. It’s funny that the person who made up the term “True Love” never provide us with the definition.

Anna: There more things to do in life than focusing on a relationship. Maybe school is one of them. Most people that turned 18 had not been in 6 relationships. Are you really so desperate to find someone to spend the rest of your life with. You’re still young! How do you know that what you want in a relationship won’t change over time. Why do you think many people go through divorce? It really takes time to understand and think critically about what you really want in life. What you want in life as a 18 yr. old will change when you get older. Instead of hopping in and out of relationship, I think you should think over why each of those previous ones failed.

By: Anna

Anna — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 04:12:33 +0000

Hi I feel like I’m 40 or 50 and going through a mid life crisis! I’m only 18 and been in 6 relationships. I been in and out of relationship since I was 15.I just brook up with my boyfriend who I’ve been with for 7months and once again I fell lost lonely hurt sad and confused had to end it cause I felt and we wanted and needed different thing out of life and besides that I kept having dreams of us fighting and breaking up and me in a relationship with a different man and then lately I’ve also been getting this gut feeling that he’s not the one for me and I need to let go! I just want to know if its normal for me to feel this way at my age and be going through all this stuff! what should i do with my life!

By: Darren Hewer

Darren Hewer — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 02:12:40 +0000

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By: ally

ally — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 16:14:22 +0000

i need help. please reply. please.

By: jelly

jelly — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 15:34:56 +0000

If I love one man, I think he loves me too, but might be he do not know what is true love, he is confused on infatuation and love, shall I lead him what is true love? I really do not know how I could do. thanks!

By: Darren Hewer

Darren Hewer — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 18:45:40 +0000

Kaitlin, thank you for taking the time to share with us. It is a very difficult situation that you’re in, and one in which you’ll need careful discernment and prayer to guide you.

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By: Kaitlin

Kaitlin — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 00:22:10 +0000

I have been in a relationship for over 4 years, but it has been off and on. There was a point in time where he had loved me, but then he stopped telling me, and when I would tell him he wouldn’t say it back. I moved last year away from him, so now we live 2 hours or so away from each other. The distance makes it very hard, we hardly see each other, and I don’t want to lose him. So what do I do?