Comments on: Dating

By: Ame

Ame — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 17:13:08 +0000

Tiffany,
What you are experiencing is normal. It’s ok to not to want to mess up. Although you should get tested for a disease called Bipolar Disorder. It’s a chemical imbalance in the brain that makes your emotions out of wack.

YOu don’t sound like the girl that would veer of the road for to long.
Live and let learn sweetheart.

Best of Luck,
Ame

By: Ame

Ame — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 17:11:07 +0000

Jamie,
I’m so sorry. However, it’s not the end of the world. Try and make things right with your boyfriend. Let him know that you want to earn his trust back little by little.

Although maybe dating isn’t right for you at the present moment. Take some time and reflect on it.
The Best of Luck,
Ame

By: tiffany

tiffany — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 14:18:21 +0000

I first met my birth father around 6 years ago. I though it was cool and all but last November I found out that he killed his ex-girlfriend and severely hurt her grandson. He was high and drunk. My mom always says that I act like him. And thats what worries me…I’m scared that I’m going to end up just like him. She said he was a good guy and he cared about everyone he met. (I do too) I don’t ever see how I act like him but she dated him for a long time so she knows him better than I do. People say I’m smart and that I have a great future if I stay on the right road. I’m just scared that somehow I’m gonna veer off it and into a ditch or something. My mood changes suddenly and I snap for no reason so yea again I’m scared. Anyone have any advice for me?
Tiffany

By: Joy

Joy — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 15:49:03 +0000

Jamie,

I think you’re too young to be thinking about relationships right now.. I think you need to focus on schooling, and other things… You have your whole life ahead of you.. I wouldn’t blame him for not trusting you, cause you cheated on him… you broke that trust.. When someone breaks that trust, how can they expect that person to trust them again?

God created you to love him… Let God be your husband for now..

Romans 12:1-2 - I urge you brothers and sisters by the mercies of God, present your bodies as a living sacrifice, which is your spiritual act of worship. DO NOT be conformed to the patterns of this world, but BE transformed by the renewing of your minds, then you know what is acceptable, perfecting pleasing will of God.

I encourage you to enjoy being yourself… but I encourage you to seek the Lord… A guy isn’t the answer for you, they will never be able to fulfill your needs.. its only a relationship with Jesus that will.

You can’t get him to trust you… I see that you have insecurities.. You broke that trust. You can’t expect him to trust you just like that..

By: Jaime

Jaime — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 09:32:11 +0000

I’m a 16 year old female. I have a wonderful boyfriend who doesn’t trust me because I cheated on him. this is our second time going out he lives in a different state from me (8 hours to be exact) and i’m trying to get him to trust me. he leaves on the 9th of july which is 10 days before my 17th birthday he leaves for the army and im scared something will happen between us or that he will get hurt like killed or something. I’m scared and don’t know how to make it throw this help me be strong and not be depressed when hes gone and help me trust him. when he has done nothing to make me not trust him. i don’t trust him i’m not sure why tho help me please

By: Calli

Calli — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 20:50:17 +0000

Dear Karen,
My x-boyfriend cheated on me too. I’m still trying to forgive him. And it’s difficult, but it’s his fault he hurt you like that. My boyfriend cheated on me, and when we were going out, he treated me like trash, absoloutley no respect. It’s not that I didn’t mind him treating me like that or touching me too much. It’s just that I was so desperate for love and attention that I stayed in the relationship until he walked up to me and said it’s over. After that, I felt mixed emotions. Anger, depression, sadness, and I was shaking uncontrollably. My advice is to pray and ask God for the man that HE has planned for you. That’s what I do. But waiting and waiting is painfully annoying. I admire girls like these who do their best in their situations like these. It makes me feel better. Just be strong. Be strong Karen.

By: Ame

Ame — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 17:39:03 +0000

Pei Pei,
I’m not quite sure I understand your ummm infatuation with this girl. However, I don’t understand why people can’t accept the fact some people are attracted to the same sex. Although, I think Chris hit it right on, many people get confused between best friends and love. There’s nothing wrong with liking this girl. However, make sure you think it over before jumping in. It is accepted in some parts, but many parts of the USA are still very opposed to gays. I wish you all the luck in the world and I hope you decide what’s the best route to take. Just know that not everyone thinks like I do. In fact many people think the way Chris appears to. I’m here if you need me.

By: Chris

Chris — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 04:04:24 +0000

Hey Pei Pei, you are a girl? And she is a girl?
You do not really love her the way you think you do. The world has created this idea that it is 100% normal, and that you can easily love the same sex.
But really, she is your best friend., that is all. I believe many “gay” people get confused between a best friend and someone they “love”.

By: Darren

Darren — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 23:29:21 +0000

Pei Pei, I appreciate how difficult it must be to be so far apart from someone that you care about so much. Since your situation and question involve another person, it might be better to discuss it with a mentor privately. If you’d like to (privately & confidentially) talk to a mentor about it through email, please visit this link:
http://thelife.com/interactive/ask.html
They’ll be a patient listening ear. I pray that you’ll find the wisdom that you’re searching for.

By: Pei Pei

Pei Pei — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 20:08:53 +0000

Alright,
I’m a girl, 16, and 500+ miles away from someone I think I love. I moved about 4 years ago, but next year I’m moving back and they don’t know I love them. They know I like them, but that’s it. We were friends in junior high-which was a private christian academy- and she asked me if I liked her. I lied because I was scared of what people would think and I was only like 11 or so. But now I’ve been talking with her on the phone every day and sometimes late at night when my parents can’t hear us. If they knew I liked a girl, let alone LOVED one, one of them at least would flip, if I told my family where I used to live, they’d ban me for the most part. I just don’t know what to do. I really think I’m in love with this girl, and I don’t know how to deal with that either. Could I please get some help with this?
Thank you-Peiton